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Love Your Ego!

RobotLike many on the spiritual path, for a time I was afraid to love my ego. It seemed like the goal was to push it away, even to “kill” the ego. It seemed that ego was the enemy. But then I also began to realize that this type of relationship with the ego was one of resistance, and I was committed to releasing resistance in all areas of my life. I realized it was strange that I should have resistance to something that was, after all, part of me. I realized this resistance to ego was causing me to be at war with myself.  So I began instead to send unconditional love to my ego. Once I was able to do that it was like I could see ego with more clarity than ever before, which makes sense since love is a kind of light, so the ‘darkness’ of the ego was no longer present in the light of that love. What was present was the pure distilled nature of ego, which is not evil, it is made of love just as everything in the universe is. The purpose of the ego, the reason for its original creation was simply to be a mechanism for spirit to experience separateness, the delicious separateness which allows two people to become lovers, which allows two people to become friends, which allows the human to stand in awe of the night sky. Without ego we are simply a unified flow of energy, which is what we truly are anyway, ego only allows the perception of separateness after all, since true separateness is not possible. The ego is simply a tool for creating the experience or illusion of separateness so that spirit can see itself from another perspective. It is no more or less than that. There is no sense in hating that or pushing it away. It simply is. Furthermore, this separate perspective that the ego creates allows us to learn, explore and create. When I looked around I saw that none of what I was looking at would be here without ego, it is a tool for creation itself.

I saw that when ego was first created, we were able to experience the illusion of separateness through ego, yet we had full memory and full consciousness of what we actually were – a divine flow of energy choosing a temporary form – we never lost sight of that and so it was the true Eden. We were able to play in the divine flow of creation while enjoying the beauty of it all from various distinct points of view. Resistance is something that was completely foreign to us. It was all love, and the ego was part of that, we loved the ego equally to everything else, but we were not attached to ego either, and could move into and out of form with relative ease, almost like putting on a new costume. The ego was more like a beautiful painting in a museum, that you would look at and appreciate, then move on to the next one, equally beautiful and totally unique, without feeling any pain of ‘leaving’ the first painting, just easily appreciating and loving each one that came into your experience. The “fall from grace” was a process of losing our divine memory, our link to the consciousness of our true nature. When we lost this consciousness, the ego then went from being a tool for creation to being perceived as the whole nature of our being, and the illusion of separateness then became complete. The ego was still not evil, but its purpose was to create separateness, and without a link to the wholeness of our true nature as a flow of divine energy, we became lost in the ego state.

I think of it like this – you know all those movies and books about robots taking over the world? In the beginning, the robots are always good. They are good because the serve a purpose, they are built in order to serve humanity in some way and they do it well. When they take over however, everything goes wrong, things are no longer good because the robots can’t really handle the responsibility. Without their connection to the “programmer” they run crazy, but it is more because they don’t know any better, they have no link to any greater consciousness – they are robots after all, just designed to run a program, not designed to be connected or understand the subtleties of love. So it is like that with the ego – when it was a tool to assist us all was well, when it took over however it did not do such a good job because it was never designed for that purpose. Its programming, its original purpose, was separateness, and separateness was never meant to be the force that runs the universe. The ego’s “programmer” is the soul, which is the extension of divine source. So here we are now. Our purpose now is to recover our divine memory, while still in ego. Ego is not something we can give up completely in this physical dimension, it is not designed that way. Therefore as long as we are in this physical dimension we must make peace with ego, we must reconnect to our source, and from our source we turn the infinite love back onto the ego. When we do that it sheds its darkness and we see its grace and its purpose. All things in the universe respond to love, so the ego is no different.

Love and Light,

Rhea Jamil

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Non-Attachment: Is It Possible?

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Mind is the creator of attachment, not heart.  Many confuse non-attachment with detachment.  We envision a hermit living life in a cave with no companionship, and that is very unappealing for most of us.  Most of us want to have relationships, to have children, to have friends, to make love, to enjoy life, etc.  Can we do all of that in a state of non-attachment?  Non-attachment is not a lack of love, it is not a lack of connection, quite the opposite.  I would in fact define non-attachment as akin to unconditional love.  Non-attachment is actually a state of very deep connection, connection to source, to self, to all.  It is connection without conditions, without any need to prove anything or for anything else to prove itself to you.  Mind creates ego and ego creates attachment because it needs attachment to feel real, and to feel justified.  It needs to latch on to something to say “aha – that is what I am!”  The soul needs no justification, it does not need anything outside itself to tell it what it is.  The soul thus has no attachments, only the mind does.  Therefore the state of non-attachment is the state of being in deep connection with your soul, and your soul by nature is connected to every being on earth and everything in the universe. 

 

The state of attachment is a state of mind, it is a state of believing that things and situations in the outer world are what define you – your job, your money, your country, your relationships, your story, your talents, etc.  And if you lose one of these things, or if you attach yourself to something that you can’t obtain in the immediate moment (i.e – “I’ll be happy once I have that job, that house, that partner”), you suffer because you feel incomplete as a person, or you feel as if you’ve lost part of yourself.  You also feel fear of losing these things, because fear is imagining the potential future instead of being in the moment.  Thus, another key to non-attachment is living in the moment.  If you are always in fear of losing someone or something, you cannot enjoy the connection which you share in the moment.  The connection you have in the moment with someone, without conditions or fears, is always joyful.  Non-attachment in a relationship, for example, means not that you are detached from the person you are in a relationship with, it means that you are deeply connected, but that you recognize that the connection itself is what matters, and not how it looks to others, or what the outcome of the relationship will be – after all, every relationship you have will eventually end, either through separation or death.  Thus attaching oneself to the outcome of any relationship will only cause suffering.  Because all forms are impermanent, they must be appreciated in the moment, as they are, without conditions.

 

The other mis-perception is that if you are in a state of non-attachment that you won’t ever feel the pain of loss.  The pain of loss, or grief, is part of being human.  Sorry, there is no way around it.  I feel certain that even Buddha and Jesus and all the ascended masters felt the pain of grief at some point during their lives on earth.  It is natural to feel grief-stricken if you lose a fellow human being from the earthly realm.  The difference is only that in a state of non-attachment, the grief will not overtake you, it will not become part of your pain body, your story.  It will be felt, processed, and eventually transmuted.  It will pass through you instead of overtake you.  It will be recognized as a symptom of deep love and connection, along with the awareness that the connection never truly dies.  Connection itself, or love, is the eternal essence within which all impermanent forms arise and fade away.  As Rumi said “The lover’s pain is also the lover’s greatest joy.”  The pain of loss or separation is an aspect of deep connection, and the connection is the source of joy.  This becomes clearer in a state of non-attachment, where all connection is joyful because it is without conditions. 

 

Suffering is the belief that you are not God, that you are not connected to anything else in creation or anyone else on a deeper level.  Because you are out of touch with your connection to anything on the soul level, you instead create attachments via the ego.  These attachments then become what defines you because you are unaware of your true divine nature.  The root of the suffering thus is being unaware of your own divinity and connection to all else.  The attachments are like a symptom of being in that state.  Eastern philosophies such as Buddhism stress the link between attachment and suffering.  The only way to truly release your attachments in the end, is to get in touch with your essential self, your divine self, the part of you that needs no justification, no identity, no attachments.  Then releasing ego-based attachments happens naturally.  To get in touch with your divine, essential self, find the stillness within.  Meditation is the easiest way to do this.  If you do not already have a meditation practice, begin simply by sitting quietly and focusing on the breath, and on the heartbeat.  As thoughts come, simply allow them to pass through without judgment and bring your focus back to the breath and the heartbeat.  The still awareness behind your thoughts is the gateway to the Eden within you.  Non-attachment will flow naturally from that place.  There is no need to focus on non-attachment, it will happen as a result of your heightening consciousness and your connection to your true, divine self.

 

Namaste,

 

Rhea Jamil

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Having a bad day?

Finding inner peace, enlightenment, or the Eden within, does not mean you will never have a bad day again.  One of the wonderful things about finding the flow in your life however, is that when you do have a bad day, the universe has a way of sending messages to help you through.  This can manifest in a person showing up at the right time, a song on the radio that speaks to your problem, stumbling across a blog post or video that gives you the right kind of guidance at the right time. The trick is staying present enough during your bad days to recognize these miracles.   Remaining present during a bad day means that you acknowledge what is going on in the moment and be present with it, in a state of non-resistance.  Allow it to be.   Step back and observe your thoughts about the moment, without judgment.  Breath through it.  Notice that you – the essential you – has not been destroyed by the negativity.  When you do this, you may find the ‘bad stuff’ in the moment will have less power over you, and you will be able to remain open for guidance.  This does not mean you will magically be ‘happy’ in the midst of a bad day.  It does mean that it will not consume you.  Here is a wonderful video from Teal Scott on this topic.

Namaste – Rhea Jamil