Tag Archive | Love

The Dancing Cry of the Soul – Rumi

DancerLove is the dancing cry of the soul, calling the body to worship
Like a shining whirlpool, or a spinning mayfly
So is love among the skies.
I leap across the mountaintops, madly singing the song of all songs
I float through the ether, intoxicated, thrilled
… I think only of your love, your calling to me
And I dance the thousand dances of love, all returning to you.

It is not the play of children, nor the detached unity of wise sages
Unreal! Unnecessary!
Where is the beauty?

When I, like a glowing comet, may flash around your sun
Laughing, singing, with the joy of loving you!

Wine makes drunk the mind and body
But it is love which thrills the soul
When I approach you, I feel the mad pounding of love
The singing wonder
The joy which opens blossoms on the trees of the world.

Come to me, and I shall dance with you
In the temples, on the beaches, through the crowded streets
Be you man or woman, plant or animal, slave or free
I shall show you the brilliant crystal fires, shining within
I shall show you the beauty deep within your soul
I shall show the path beyond Heaven.

Only dance, and your illusions will blow in the wind
Dance, and make joyous the love around you
Dance, and your veils which hide the Light
Shall swirl in a heap at your feet.

Rumi

What is Love?

Fire-heart Ah, love. It is a simple little word that encompasses so much that it becomes nearly impossible to pin it down with a definition. I love ice cream. I also love my cat. I love my daughter. I love orchids. I love to dance. I love my husband. I love God. (Note these are not in any particular order). Each of these feelings I just described using the same word, has very different qualities. I can tell you that the feeling I have for ice cream is very different from the feeling I have for my husband, and yet I use the same word to describe it. This is in part a fallacy of our language. Some languages have different words for love which distinguish romantic love from platonic love, from God-like unconditional love. But even these distinctions do not capture the full diversity of feeling that is expressed by what we call Love.

Love can be defined in many ways, but in the end the definitions themselves are hollow, because love is something intuitive. It is not something that the left brain can fully quantify or clearly define. It simply is. You know it when you feel it. However, if I were to attempt to define love, I would express love as any reflection of the unity behind the duality. It is a deep longing for connectedness, fueled by the soul-level recognition of oneness. It is a desire to merge from separateness back to wholeness, equally matched by the desire to remain separate in order to share the space which allows the delicious experience of loving another. Any feeling that reminds us of the connection to divine essence from which we all emerged and to where we all return, we then call ‘love.’ This can express itself in many ways, and thus we have many different varieties of love, and many different qualities to the feelings which are associated with love. Even my simple love of an orchid flower is a reflection of the unity behind the duality. Every small act of love draws one closer to their source and to oneness, for no type of love is greater or lesser, all love is from the same source. When love is expanded even to the point that one learns even to love the enemy, then love becomes truly limitless, an ocean of unity within duality. There is a Sufi saying that love is the glue which holds the universe together. That is very accurate, as without love, in our state of separateness all would drift apart, there would be nothing to hold it together. Love creates the glue, it is the divine connection which holds all things together so that even when we are in the illusion of separateness, we know through the experience of love that we are still one, connected, united being.

Namaste,

Rhea Jamil

Self-Worth and Vulnerability


“Vulnerability is the core of shame, fear and the struggle for worthiness, but it is also the birthplace of joy, creativity, belonging and love.” -Brene Brown

It takes courage to be imperfect, to be who you are instead of what others want you to be, to allow yourself to be comfortable with uncertainty, to love yourself so deeply that you know your true worth no matter how the world treats you. But doing this is also the key to living fully and living with meaning and joy, it is the key to knowing true connection with others and with all there is.
Love and Light,
Rhea Jamil

Forgiveness Exercizes

MeditationForgiveness looks reality in the face. Part of the resistance that many have to forgiveness is the idea that it is like pulling the wool over your eyes, that it means having to pretend that everything is OK. That is not forgiveness, that is denial. Burying your true feelings does not help you move on. Part of forgiveness is acknowledging your hurt, your anger, your pain. Acknowledge those feelings and allow them to pass through you, but don’t hold on to them either. Those feelings are like a forest fire, they move through and burn as long as there is fuel to feed them. But once the fuel is gone, so goes the fire, then new life comes up from the ashes and the forest is renewed. The purpose of the fire is to create the way for renewal, so you must allow it to move through you, but as long as you keep feeding the flames, as long as you keep giving fuel to the anger and hurt, it will continue to burn, and you rob yourself of the possibility of renewal. How do you stop feeding the fire? Forgiveness.

In many cases it may take some time to get to a place of forgiveness, and if you are not ready to forgive right now that is also OK, don’t beat yourself up about it, just allow it to be. You don’t have to forgive today if you’re not ready, but if you want to begin the path toward forgiveness I offer a series of simple exercizes to get you there.  Begin by practicing regular meditation if you are not doing so already. Meditation will help you tap into the still place within, which is where you find your essential self, the self which is aligned with unconditional love. Unconditional love and forgiveness are of the same energy.  The series of videos below provides some guidance on basic meditation and discusses how meditation can improve relationships, reduce stress and help you find inner peace.  

The second step is to begin sending unconditional love to random people, for no reason. You can do this while in meditation or while you’re out and about. Send it to people you pass on the street, send it to the clerk at the supermarket. Send this love from your highest self to theirs, remember that they are not just the personality that you are interacting with, they are an eternal soul like you, and you are connected; send love to that eternal soul which is connected to yours. No need to tell them, just send it from the heart, and feel the warmth and beauty of that energy, notice how you instantly feel better, and perhaps the other person responds to you differently as well.  You will see that by sending this love to others, you become the beneficiary of that energy. You will feel lighter and more present. 

When you have this down, the third step is to send unconditional love to the person who cut you off in traffic, or the person who gave you a dirty look at work. After doing this enough you will begin to see how easy it is to make the choice to simply send love and to forgive, without conditions. You will see how this releases you from the knee-jerk negative reactions that we typcially fall victim to in these situations, and instead allows you to remain in the ‘flow’ of your day without being thrown off-track by negativity.

Finally, when you are ready, sit in meditation and begin sending this same energy to any person or people who deeply wronged you in the past, send it to the people you most need to forgive in order to move on, and this may include yourself. Just choose to do it, without thinking about it. Thinking about it will draw you back into the story, and as discussed in my previous post letting go of the story is a crucial part of forgiveness. [If you find that thoughts about the story keep coming up as you do this, try the exercises I recommend in ‘Thought Seeds’ to rid yourself of those thoughts and continue sending the unconditional love and forgiveness.] After a time you will begin to feel a release, you will begin to feel as if there is space around the hurt, around the story, that it no longer seems to affect you the way it used to. Finish the meditation be surrounding yourself with a bubble of pure gold light. Intend that this bubble will be a barrier that will only allow love and high energies to come through, and will keep out any negativity. You may only need to do this once or you may need to do it a number of times until you feel released from the story, until you feel the fire subside and new growth beginning.

Humanity is in deep need of forgiveness. Forgiveness is how we heal the world and stop the cycles of suffering. When you hear crazy and horrible things on the evening news, such as the events this week in Boston, remember that forgiveness is your highest calling, it is the energy which will heal the world.  Allow yourself to feel the pain and anger, but also be brave enough to forgive, and wise enough to know that forgiveness is the only way to finally be free.

I also recommend the book “Radical Forgiveness” by Collin Tipping, for those who want to explore forgiveness more deeply. Tipping offers some wonderful and profound exercises in forgiveness and offers new perspective on the negative things which happen in our lives.

Namaste,
Rhea Jamil

Discovering Self-Worth

Rumi-quoteYou are divine, therefore your worth is inherent.  You do not need to prove anything, because you already are the proof of divine love.  There is nothing you need to become in order to be ‘worthy.’  The challenge of being human is to reconcile your divinity with your humanity.  Your divinity is the perfection you were made with.   Your humanity is the suffering you have endured, it is the journey you have taken and the scars you have accumulated along the way.   We are perfection, we are made in perfection, then we go through human lifetimes which have both joy and suffering, and we get a little beat up.  We become, on the surface, less than perfect.  We may even be quite damaged, so that the world when it sees us, it no longer recognizes our perfection.  Humans are often not valued by the world, or we may think that our only value is in some tiny part of us that the world sees as valuable, like having a big house or great job.  However, our true value is always in our whole being, scars and all.  The world does not have the final say on what is worthy, because the world is the illusion of separateness, and through this illusion it sees duality instead of unity.  It creates a dichotomy which makes you then believe that what you are is not enough, but that you need to be something else, or something more.  If someone criticized the sky for being blue, or criticized a fish for being unable to fly, you would think them insane.  And yet we do this to ourselves and others all the time.  We decide we are not enough, that we are somehow not alright as we are, and then we project that onto others as well, and likewise others project their own perceived shortcomings onto us.  This is a state of madness.  The way out of this madness is to rediscover the connectedness to divine reality.  Remove the veil of illusion, the veil which makes you believe that you not divine, and you see the perfection, the inherent worth, in yourself, and in others. 

The journey has caused you to be a little beaten up, but the inherent perfection in you is intact, and now in addition, you have a tremendous story, you have the value of your wondrous journey through life as well and the scars to prove it.  Your perfection and your worth are never diminished no matter how many battle scars, no matter how much the world devalues you.  In fact, your worth increases with suffering by virtue of what you learn and what the universe learns through you.  If the world does not recognize your worth, it is not because your worth is not there.  If you feel imperfect, it is not because the perfection you were made with is not there.  What you are and where you are right now, in this moment, is what you are meant to be.  You do not need to justify yourself, or your place in this world, to anyone else.  You can simply be exactly what you are, knowing your value even if no one else sees it.  True self worth is one of those things that the world cannot give you, but that you must give to yourself.  Once you release the need for the world to acknowledge your worth, then you become the person you were meant to be.

Namaste,

Rhea Jamil

How to Love Your Enemy

Love-cat-squirrelTo love the enemy is not just to love the outer enemy but the inner one.  It is to shed light and love on those parts of you that you would rather keep hidden in the dark.  As long as they are in the dark, they will be your enemy as you are theirs, bring them to the light of love and consciousness and they cease to be your enemy and visa versa.  Once this work is complete – it becomes very easy to love the enemy in the outer world as well, for you see that person as one who still lives in shadow, much like the parts of yourself that once did.  You have seen the power of love to remove the shadow and you can spread the light of love to your outer enemy with ease and grace.  All love starts with self love.   If you want to be a beacon of love to the world, begin by loving yourself, all of yourself, even your darkness.  Once you love your darkness, it ceases to be darkness.  It instead becomes part of your wholeness.  When you are undivided within yourself, you will begin to create an undivided world, a world without enemies.

Love and Light,

Rhea Jamil

Love and the Law of Attraction – Part II

Fire-heartMost of you are probably aware that there is some subtlety to the law of attraction.  It is not as simple as just “wanting” something.  If it were that simple, we would all have exactly what we want, all the time.  It is true we can manifest anything, it is possible, however the most powerful manifestations, those which truly bring joy and balance to your life, are always those which are in line with the divine whole or source – in other words, it should be connected to your life’s purpose, which is the aspect of source that you came here to express.  This is the wisdom of many faiths which finish their prayers with “thy will be done.”  In the end, your desires must align with the universe.  This is why sometimes you start off on a path of something you think you want, only to be met by numerous obstacles and difficulties.  It can feel as if God does not want you to do what you are doing, and in a way that is not far off the mark.  Sometimes what you think you want is not exactly what the universe had in mind (or in heart, as it were).  It is not aligned with your soul’s purpose, and so the universe has ways of pushing you onto your destined course.  When you are on your destined path, you will find that the universe conspires with you to create it – if you are not in resistance.  Resistance can manifest as a belief that you cannot have it, a belief that it has to be hard, or fear of how you would make it work, or even fear of the responsibility that would come with success.  

It can be tricky to tell the difference between when you are on your right path and things are going wrong because you are in resistance, and when you are just on the wrong path and the universe is trying to nudge you back in the right direction.  However, if what you truly want is coming from your heart, then it will always be aligned with your soul’s higher purpose.  If you are meant to be a musician, you will be born with music in your heart.  It will be unstoppable, you will desire it all your days.  The problem is that you may, like the majority of people, choose to ignore your heart and follow your head instead.  Your head which says – ‘no, that is not practical, you need to do X instead since that is what everyone else does’.  Then you find when you try to do X, it does not work out.  You may be able to manifest some degree of X, but it will be less than perfect, because it does not come from the true desire of your heart which is aligned with the source and your purpose.  Instead of fulfilling you, it will feel hard, like you are fighting an uphill battle.  This is because you are manifesting X from your mind instead of your heart, and because your heart will always be in music, the universe gives you mixed results for X which is coming from your head.  If you follow your bliss, what is truly in your heart, and you do not resist it, you allow the universe to show up and help you, then you will manifest your desire. 

The key here is the heart.  The reason many fumble is because they are making decisions from their head.  Most of us live in our heads.  The heart, however, is so much more powerful than the head.  This is shown even scientifically – the heart has a stronger magnetic field than the brain, and the heart has a cellular memory.  People who have heart transplants will find that they suddenly have a love of and aptitude for music or art when they didn’t before.  Then, not surprisingly, they find out that the heart donor had the same gift.  We come here with the pre-programming for our destined path.  We are born wired with our destinies, but that wiring is not in our brains, it is in our hearts.  The key is to tap into that wiring and follow it to its outcome.  That is when you will find the law of attraction working for you, because it is coming from love, which is the essence of source, and thus source is called to show up for you.  Figure out what it is that you love, that you truly love.  Not what others told you that you should love, not what you think you should love, but what you actually love.  What gives you a feeling of bliss?  Seek that out and sit with it.  Let it in fully with no resistance.  Any resistance is coming from your head, not your heart.  Allow yourself to feel that bliss with your whole heart.  This is a feeling universe, not a thinking one.  The universe will respond to your feeling a thousand times more strongly than to your thinking, especially if that feeling is bliss that comes from love.

Love and Light

Rhea Jamil