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Karma and the Law of Attraction

SpiralThe law of karma, the law of attraction, and the law of cause and effect are all essentially descriptions of the same law in different terms. What you put out you get back, what you sow, you reap, yadda yadda. Although these laws are framed in different ways, and people hold different beliefs around them, they are in essence the same. Karma is unique mostly because it’s proponents believe that it follows you from life to life; this is not generally what people think about the law of attraction or cause and effect. However, whether you believe in reincarnation or not, and whether you believe that Karma follows you or not, no matter how you look at it, it is undeniable that there is a force which attracts to you the energies which you put out. These ‘energies you put out’ can be thoughts, intentions, words, actions, or a combination of all of the above. I believe that Karma is more forgiving than most people think. This is evidenced by the fact that positive thoughts seems to have so much more power than negative thoughts. Positive intentions often manifest in ways that are greater than what was ever imagined. Most of us have examples of this in our lives if we are paying attention. Aren’t many of the truly good things in your life even greater than what you would have expected? Aren’t many of the bad things in your life not really all that bad when you look at them in perspective? The system is rigged toward the positive. Positive feelings and thoughts will always create more and create faster than the negative. The problem is that most of us are caught in the negative so much of the time that we are still manifesting the negative – what we don’t want. We are still creating negative karma even though it is easier to create positive karma.

Karma often seems like something that we are a “victim” of, but that is only because the negative karma we create is usually done in unconsciousness. It happens when we are not paying attention. Lama Surya Das gives an example of a pickle jar. Imagine that you open a jar of pickles and become distracted after opening them (the phone rings, you get a text, etc.), then while you are distracted you put them back in the fridge without sealing the lid. What happens? The next time you go to the fridge to get the pickles, the lid comes off and you drop them. Now you have shattered glass, pickles and pickle juice all over the floor. You probably curse. If you don’t remember doing this yourself you might even instantly blame someone else like your spouse or child for being careless. Most of us have experienced something like this. Our action that we do in unconsciousness, (while we are distracted) causes an effect that is undesirable. In “The Secret” they discuss how the law of attraction is working all the time, even when we are not paying attention. Karma is the same, since we are essentially talking about the same law in different terms. It is working all the time, each moment of each day, with each thought, each action, each reaction, we are creating new karma, new manifestations. Thus, when you drop the pickle jar, remember that you still have a choice. You can react in anger and blame, or you can simply clean up the mess and move on. The latter decision will not create any more bad karma on top of the mess.

The unconscious stream of dialogue that most people have running through their heads is creating their karma, it is setting the law of attraction in motion. For most of us, it is difficult to pay attention 100% of the time, but regular meditation can help you learn to quiet and control your thoughts. What is going through your head most of the day? Are you thinking good thoughts about others? Good thoughts about the past or future? Or are they disparaging thoughts about others, and negative or fearful thoughts about the past or future? Whatever you are thinking will create more of the same, your thoughts are an energy which will attract like energies. Your feelings are a feedback system, so if you have trouble tracking your thoughts, which most of us do, pay attention to your feelings. They will tell you if what you are thinking in any given moment is in alignment or out of alignment with your highest self. When you feel “bad” it is generally because the thoughts you are having at the moment are not in alignment with your highest self. How do you turn that around? Listen to your favorite music, take a bath, meditate, breath, slow down, laugh, whatever you need to do to find your center. From the still place inside you, from the place of pure presence and awareness, you can hit the ‘reset’ button. Once you’ve made a new choice on where to focus your thinking, you are instantly creating new karma, and attracting new manifestations to your reality. Thank goodness for the ‘time delay’ of these laws. The effects do not happen instantly, and this gives us time to stop and hit the reset button when we need to, in order to create something new and better. This allows us to create from a place of consciousness instead of unconsciousness. That means no more broken pickle jars, it means you become aware that all things are your own choosing.

Love and Light,
Rhea Jamil

Non-Judgment and Self Love

nonjudgementThe Dali Lama has said “love is the absence of judgment.” Indeed, judgment can be seen as the opposite of love. Many of us have become conditioned to the idea that love comes with prerequisites; that someone else must behave in a certain manner to be deserving of our love. If we are honest with ourselves we can all admit that we find it hard to love some people, often including ourselves. The reason it is hard is because we are in judgment. Judgment is also a state of being unaware of our connection to divine source, and being in non-judgment helps us remember that source connection.

The traits we deem as ‘lovable’ vs. ‘unlovable’ are defined by our egos, and also by those extensions of our individual egos which include things like the larger society, culture, or religious dogma. These larger collective egos are very good at judging other societies, cultures or religions, even to the point of waging war with them. These collective egos, however, are reflections of the dominate individual ego. If the individual ego disappears in favor of love and non-judgment, then the behavior of society, culture and religion will begin to change as well. World peace begins with us, as individuals, choosing love instead of judgment.

Ego is the domain of the mind, and when we are in judgment, love gets caught up in the mind. In the mind love must be justified, which is what the mind is good at doing. If we can’t justify it, then we reject it as not being worthy of love. Those who fall outside of this matrix of worthiness then become the enemy, the ones we judge, and this can include ourselves. We become our own worst enemies. Often the reason we are so hard on others, the reason we find fault with others and judge them so quickly, is because we don’t love ourselves fully. The others are reflections of us, they will reflect back to us what we often don’t want to face in ourselves. When you move out of your head and into your heart, and you let go of judgment altogether, you find that love has no conditions and no boundaries. This is where you find your connection to source and to all things, this is the place of unconditional love. Unconditional love is love without judgment, love without the pre-requisite of “worthiness.”

The most important person to love unconditionally is yourself. Self love is not selfishness. Selfishness is a focus on lack, a belief that there is not enough to go around and so you must take from others to be complete; but then of course you never are complete because in selfish mode you continue to believe in lack, and thus lack will keep showing up – no matter what you take from others, it will never be enough to fill the void. This is why selfishness is a very unhappy state of being. Self love, on the other hand, is really the opposite of the state of selfishness. Self love is the state of being fulfilled in yourself. You no longer need to find fulfillment in the outer world when you truly love yourself unconditionally. Your relationships then deepen because others are “off the hook” from having to complete you, and they sense that. It makes them feel more at ease with you. Others feel free to be loving and to express themselves around you. In other words, show yourself the love that you wish you were getting from others, and you will attract others who reflect that love back to you.

Namaste,
Rhea Jamil

Thought Seeds

SeedsThoughts are a lot like seeds. You produce countless thoughts every day, just like a tree produces countless seeds. When the seeds of the tree get disbursed, a few of them will land on fertile ground, sprout and grow. However, most of them will not. Most will scatter to places where they will not be able to sprout, or an animal will eat them before they have a chance, and they never become trees. Our thoughts are much the same. The majority of your thoughts don’t go anywhere, they simply come, then go. They don’t do much harm, nor do they create much. Some of our thoughts will sprout initially, but then wither and die before becoming anything more. Then some of your thoughts will take root in fertile soil and grow into a tree. It may be a small birch tree or a giant sequoia. An example of a thought which became a great sequoia is the Wright brothers’ thought that flight was possible. That thought started as a seed in their minds, was fertilized and fed by belief, was given the sunlight of action and persistence, and became the reality of modern aviation. Any book that was ever written, any work of art, any movie, any company, any invention, any scientific theory, any building or monument, began as a seed in someone’s mind. Look around you right now. What do you see? Especially if you are indoors or in a big city, you are seeing the results of someone’s idea, someone’s seed which was tended, sprouted and grew into whatever it is you are looking at. It all began as a thought, nothing more, nothing less. Likewise, failures begin as a seed in someone’s mind as well. What happens to most of us is that we do not pay attention to the seeds that we tend vs. the seeds we cast away. Some of us give much more fertilizer of belief to seeds of doubt, of insecurity, of ill health etc., than to the seeds which would bring us wealth, health and happiness. Somehow, we just don’t believe those good seeds will sprout, so we cast them away. You have a great idea for a business, but cast it out with the thought “oh, but I could never make that work.” We plant and nurture the seed that says “I can’t” instead of the one that says “I can,” without fully realizing that the choice is ours. We make the choice of which thoughts to nurture and which not to.

Try this visualization exercise: as you begin the practice of watching your thoughts, when you notice a negative one, turn it into a seed in your mind, then thank it for what it has taught you but tell it very clearly that it will not be planted, and cast it away. You can even blow it up in your mind. I like to blow mine up like a pretty firework and watch the sparkly trails fizzle out. The reason for thanking the seed is to release your resistance to it. Resistance to a persistent thought will only cause that thought to come back again and again. When you thank it, it helps you let go of it. That thought is not there to torment you, it is there to teach you. Thank it for that, then cast it away or blow it up. Also, you can put the seed in a rose and blow up the rose. Roses seem to have a unique power when used in visualization exercises, we will explore more rose visualizations in later posts. If you have trouble with the idea of blowing it up because it seems violent, remember that what you are doing is simply transmuting the energy of that thought. You are not destroying anything, for destruction is impossible since energy cannot be destroyed and thoughts are just a form of energy. What you are doing is taking the energy of that thought and allowing it to be recycled back into the greater good. Once you’ve blown it up, it no longer holds that form which was harmful to you, it has the opportunity to be recreated, reabsorbed into the whole and be reformed as something else. Once you’ve done this, then find the thought seed you want to plant, tell it you believe in it, put it in the soil, give it water and sunlight and watch it grow. If you’ve already planted the seed in previous visualization, you can water the sapling or tree it is becoming. Watch it become bigger and bigger in each visualization. Send it love, remind it that you believe in it.

This practice takes time and patience. You may have a lot to clear out. Often, you may not even be sure what you need to clear out, you just have a bad feeling which tells you that your thoughts are not in line with your best interest and with source, since feelings are your best feedback mechanism to let you know when your thoughts or energy is not in line with what you want. In that case, you don’t have to even know what the thought or energies are exactly, you don’t have to name them, just set the intention to rid yourself of the thought, energies and associated feelings that you don’t want and don’t need, then perform the seed and/or rose blowing visualization. Part of what is so wonderful about this is that you are working with the higher intelligence, you are working with the field of consciousness which connects to everything in the universe. This field already knows what you want, need and don’t want and need. You don’t have to be specific, you just have to set your intention toward getting rid of what you don’t want and brining in what you do, even if you are not sure what that is at first.   It will become less muddled with time.  If you feel stressed, edgy, just not right – then start blowing seeds, start blowing roses. You will feel your energy start to lighten.

Namaste

Rhea Jamil

Taming the Ego

woman-horse-mystical   What is this Ego which creates the illusion of separateness?  Ego is multi-faceted, which makes it tricky to define. Eckart Tolle defines the Ego simply as an identification with the mind. I agree, but also I think this is just one aspect of the Ego. The identification with thought and with the mind is indeed the root of suffering. The mind always exists in the past, and can only predict future events based on past experiences. Identification with the mind keeps you stuck in loops, in cycles of self-destruction, in circular thinking. Releasing your identification with the mind is key in the process of enlightenment. The essential self (also referred to as the ‘higher self’), is the part of you that sees life from the highest perspective, is connected to the unified whole essence of creation, can see the biggest picture and knows without needing the mind.  This is what one should be identified with, not the mind. The mind should just be a tool, for the role of the mind should be exclusively to receive information from this essential self. Instead most of us have put the mind in the driver’s seat and thus we repeat the past over and over because that is all the mind can do. The essential self only exists in the now moment, not in the past or future. What you call your ‘intuition’ is a direct link to this essential self. When you have had moments of just ‘knowing’ something, without interference from the logical mind, at that moment you are connecting with your essential self and bypassing the logical mind. The key is to do this more often than not, to be connected to that knowing which is beyond the realm of mind and does not need the past to make decisions in the now. Everything we associate with clairvoyance stems from being in this state, and all humans are capable of it.
     Thus, ego is in one sense this identification with the mind. This is why the quickest way to enlightenment is to stop thinking. When you stop thought, your pure, essential self can be expressed. Most of us think that we are our thoughts. We subscribe to the philosophy “I think, therefore I am.” This is not the case. Thought is what gets in the way of who you are. Thought is what creates the illusion in the first place. Thought creates the idea of “you” which is separate from “me” and separate from the rest of the universe. When you get outside of thought, you are the universe. Thus, Tolle is not wrong, however there is another aspect to Ego which should also be acknowledged. Ego is also that which allows you to perceive yourself as a separate being. Without ego, we would be one unified wholeness, as we were in the beginning. For some, that is the goal. But there is a way in which the wholeness also longs for separateness, since it is only in being separate that we can share in love. It is only in separateness that we can experience the divine lover / beloved relationship. This is Ego’s gift. This is the aspect of Ego which can be maintained even when identification with mind is gone and connection with the essential self is achieved. As long as you are in a human body, you can never fully let go of this aspect of the Ego, except perhaps in moments, but this does not mean that enlightenment cannot be obtained, it is just the opposite. You can be fully aware of your essential self and how it is connected to the unified whole, and yet maintain a separate identity which allows you to continue to be human and to share in love. This is a beautiful state of being. As my Sufi teacher Alim Thompson once explained to me, the goal is not to get rid of the Ego, the goal is to tame the ego. I began to think of the ego as a horse. It can be a bucking bronco, completely in control of you and tossing you around in life. This is the scenario of being totally identified with the mind and unaware of your essential self. The goal is to take the bucking bronco and turn it into a well trained thoroughbred, one which willingly follows your direction out of love and respect for you. Riding such a thoroughbred through life will be exhilarating and fun.
-Rhea Jamil

Here is a video from Bashar lays out the role of the essential, or higher, self more clearly than anything else I’ve come across: